Alcohol addiction is a serious disease that suppresses the will and disturbs the human psyche. Therefore, drunks should be treated like sick people and nothing else. It is necessary to remember that it will not work to stop the alcoholic with scandals, persuasions and tantrums. This can only be done at the cost of great effort and self-control. When intervening, the wife should be ready for a tough fight, as it is not easy to convince her husband to stop drinking
When it comes to female alcoholism, the situation is even worse. Husbands, children, relatives of alcoholics should understand that it is much more difficult to persuade a woman than a man. As a rule, the addict categorically denies that he has a problem, considers himself perfectly healthy and does not want to change anything. The treatment seems useless to her and she considers all persuasion and advice from relatives a personal insult.
Important! This article will discuss how to get a person to quit drinking without going to court or a psychiatric hospital. If a drunkard has signs of mental disorders or poses a threat to others, outside help should be sought as soon as possible.
How to talk to an alcoholic
It is very difficult to force an alcoholic to turn to specialists, ordinary conversations or requests for ultimatums cannot be addressed here. You need to choose a certain way of conversation, gain endurance and patience. For this, narcologists-psychotherapists recommend adhering to certain recommendations.
Wait for the "X" time. It is useless to talk about treatment with a drunk person, because in such a state he is very satisfied with her life and does not see real problems. In the morning after drinking, you shouldn't even start such a conversation, because in a state of hangover, the alcoholic will agree with all arguments and promise everything you want to hear from him.
It is also important what tone the conversation will have. The main thing is to refuse accusations and reproaches, which will only aggravate the situation and subconsciously turn the patient against you. Do not raise your voice, it is better to speak calmly, because alcohol severely disrupts the structures of the nervous system, so the conversation can easily turn into another scandal or, even worse, into physical violence by a drinker.
How to Influence an Alcoholic
Convincing a drunkard that alcoholism is not only a problem for him but also for the environment is not easy. To do this, the relatives of the drunkard will need to be patient, resilient, and also find an approach to understanding how to get a loved one treated for alcoholism.
It is impossible to persuade an alcoholic who is euphoric and satisfied with such a lifestyle to stop drinking quickly. It is not appropriate to conduct an educational conversation during a hangover syndrome. In such a state, the patient will not pay attention to persuasion, although he will make various promises to end the conversation as soon as possible and take a dose of alcohol.
It is best to strike up a conversation when a drunkard faces the negative consequences of "intoxicating" drinks. It could be:
- impregnated salary;
- machine destroyed;
- dismissal from work;
- family problems.
You cannot be successful with accusations and reprimands. Therefore, it won't work to set a drinking person on the path of correction, even if you really want to. In order for the drunkard to pay attention to persuasion, here are some tips:
- one should speak to an alcoholic calmly, without raising the tone. It is undesirable to shout, as such actions on the part of loved ones can provoke an unpleasant reaction in the drunkard. This is explained by the fact that alcoholics have an unstable nervous system, and this is fraught with scandals or beatings;
- When talking to an addict, you need to behave confidently and firmly that you are right. This will allow the opponent to understand the gravity of the situation and the firmness of the interlocutor's opinion;
- there's no need to cry and insist on pity for a life that didn't work out because of an alcoholic. Even these actions will not bring positive results;
- there is no need to pressure the patient with empty threats. If you promise to do something if the drunkenness continues, then you should definitely fulfill the ultimatum.
If one of the spouses drinks?
The tense situation in the family due to alcohol abuse by one of the spouses is not a reason for his forced release from addiction.
This is prohibited by law and can cause significant harm to the health of an alcoholic, especially if, without her consent and after consultation with a doctor, she adds toxic disulfiram-based drugs to food.
Wives or mothers of drunkards should not repeat the missteps of common women:
- First of all, you must understand that a drunkard cannot be trusted. His 100th promise to part with alcohol is a myth.
- It is impossible to threaten in an empty way, if your words are not supported by the action, it is better not to speak them. They convince the alcoholic of impunity.
- It is unacceptable to offend your spouse, it is necessary to be able to awaken in him a sense of guilt at his next unreasonable trick (waste of money, late return home).
- Instead of unattainable threats, you can provoke fear of imminent death in a drunkard, pointing out the symptoms of his health, characteristic of the possible development of cirrhosis or cancer.
- It is necessary to stop protecting the drunkard from the censorship of others, which will undoubtedly cause shame and a feeling of remorse.
- It is necessary to restrict the drinker's access to family money, not to give a penny for alcohol.
- Find out the real reason for being drunk, especially when it comes to a woman. Without removing the trigger of addiction, you cannot get rid of it.
Motivation for a sober lifestyle
The hope of saving the family can persuade an alcoholic to stop drinking.
To motivate an alcoholic to fight the green snake, it is necessary to pass on to him all the benefits of a sober life, what benefits await him after quitting alcohol. There are several reasons.
You can focus on the well-being of the family, because alcohol abuse almost always leads to the destruction of the family. The hope of saving the family can persuade the alcoholic to stop drinking. Until alcohol addiction has reached a neglected degree, it is necessary to try to convey to the patient the need for treatment.
You can try to talk about the health of the drinker. Explain that you are seriously worried that you have noticed how much his health has deteriorated. Without reproaches and cursing, it is necessary to explain that stomach and blood pressure problems, heart ailments - all this arose due to the abuse of alcoholic beverages.
If a person previously aspired to work and loved him, you can try to put pressure on this factor. Drinkers always have problems with work, from just being fired to being fired under the "alcoholic" article. If this happens, it is almost impossible for a person to find a normal job. Kindly remember what your spouse dreamed of when he wasn't drinking, how he planned his career.
If there is no certain reason, it is almost impossible to get an alcoholic treated. An addicted person should understand why he needs to part with addiction and what privileges this will give him. He should consciously want to quit for the sake of something important, and not do it at the whim of the family.
Health
When talking to an alcoholic husband, you should try to express the opinion that you are concerned about her deteriorating health. It is important to calmly explain that during the period of drunkenness, the alcoholic showed negative changes in appearance:
- cyanosis of the face,
- swelling,
- beer belly;
- insomnia.
Alcoholics are also informed about changes in character and behavior. You can compare the state of health of a drunkard at the time of a healthy lifestyle with the current state. Try with the patient to evaluate the changes that have occurred and to convince him of the usefulness of treating the disease.
Alcoholism is a destructive tool in family relationships, which often leads to divorce. Until a drunkard or alcoholic has acquired an advanced stage of the disease, there is a chance to save the family. It is necessary to try to convince the drinker of the need for treatment if the drunkard stops performing seminal tasks:
- passive towards the spouse;
- is not interested in children;
- does not care about the material well-being of the family;
- is aggressive.
Try to convince the patient that he is dear to the family. The main thing in this matter is to calmly, without reproaches, convey the idea of the need for treatment.
Finding a new job in such a situation is not easy. Even if this is successful, the work will be low-paid and unskilled. To help a person who drinks in this case, it is necessary to persuade him to change his lifestyle, to motivate how much his life has changed for the worse since the beginning of alcohol abuse. Without motivation, a drunkard cannot easily be persuaded to seek treatment. It is important for the drinker to understand that this is exactly what she needs.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We would like to warn you: self-treatment for alcoholics is rarely effective. Sometimes with the help of character and will, this is possible if the addiction to alcohol has not reached the physical stage. The basis for giving up an addiction is the desire to save a family, get a job, a status in society and another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. As a help for yourself, it is worth starting to practice proper nutrition, jogging, weekly bathing procedures.
To combat alcoholism, folk and pharmacological methods of treatment are widely used. Both options have advantages and disadvantages. They are often practiced when it is impossible to convince a drinking boy, husband or child of the harmfulness of the habit. There are pharmacological and folk remedies that cause an extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, do not cause addiction or rejection of the body. They contain substances that are completely incompatible with alcohol. They are added to the drink or food of the person drinking.
After drinking alcohol-containing drinks, they provoke an unpleasant reaction of the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. The most common folk remedies are:
- thyme broth;
- mutton broth;
- Decoction of St. John's wort.
An interesting method of covert persuasion to stop drinking existed in ancient times: the dung mushroom. The mushroom contains a substance that blocks the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom and drink alcohol, the person will develop symptoms of severe poisoning. Our grandmothers in this way imperceptibly weaned their husbands away from alcohol. But in modern realities it is better not to use such a method, especially since medicine has made great strides.
How to get an alcoholic to recover: the right motivation
To persuade an alcoholic to seek treatment, communication tactics should be developed:
- stop pitying and covering up the drinker. The alcoholic should not be expected to stop drinking on his own. This approach of the nanny, which solves problems for him, is beneficial for the alcoholic, as a result she will not stop drinking, but will get rid of everyday troubles;
- you cannot constantly create problems with a drunkard, so as not to push him to a cheerful lifestyle. It should be understood that hysteria and pointless discussions about alcohol use will aggravate the problem, as after the next scandal the drunkard will fight even more for the bottle;
- observe calm and equanimity when dealing with an addict. In moments of enlightenment, the alcoholic talks about healing from a bad habit and rehabilitation. It is permissible to call a narcologist at home;
- you have to support the desire for sobriety of the person who drinks, demonstrate the pleasures of healing, try to find hobbies for him, new goals in life.
Only a few cases may be an exception in this order:
- the patient is dangerous for himself and for others;
- the alcoholic has lost the ability to take care of himself;
- the drunkard's mental state is severe, without medical intervention he will die.
Many people are interested in the question of whether it is really possible to save a loved one from addiction. After the mandatory hospitalization for the patient, measures are taken to stop a fever attack, after which the patient is discharged from the hospital and sent home. Practice shows that the patient, even after the serious consequences of drinking, will recover the old man.
It is worth noting that it is impossible to secretly cure a sick alcoholic. Often, close people of the patient resort to the help of healers, psychics and other non-traditional methods. Any means and actions for the recovery of an alcoholic without her consent are not only useless, but also deadly.
In addition, the doctor will carry out an examination. Developing a strategy for complete patient recovery will allow you to intentionally move towards the goal. It will not be possible to cure a drunkard in one medical session or manipulation. In this matter, it is necessary, first of all, to establish the reason that provoked the impulse to alcohol abuse.
How should one behave correctly with an alcoholic in order to accept therapy?
If a person denies his addiction to the "green snake", he must be convinced otherwise. How to persuade an alcoholic to seek treatment so that he clearly understands the existing problem? To do this, you need to seriously talk to him, and the conversation should be conducted with a sober person. What you need to pay attention to:
- People who drink often have memory problems. It is worth remembering the unpleasant incidents in life that he forgot.
- The desire to take a sip in an alcoholic arises quite often and for no reason. It is necessary to explain to him that for ordinary people, problems at work or at home will not cause a binge.
- It is worth finding out what feelings an alcoholic has on a sober head. Frustration and emptiness are some of the hallmarks of addiction. He must be clearly aware of this.
- Alcoholics lose control and often don't know the norm. For this reason, a person regularly bingees.
The conversation has to happen once. It is advisable to do this when the alcoholic is in the mood for a conversation. For example, the day before he did something wrong and was guilty. Any argument should be done with great confidence. You cannot speak out loud, insist on pity, resort to threats.
The alcoholic often behaves inappropriately during periods of intoxication. In this case, such cases are completely forgotten and "thrown out" from memory. In order to see himself from the side in these moments, it is possible to film the video evidence. The drinker will not like what he saw, he must draw conclusions and accept the treatment.
How to behave to tune a drunkard to treatment:
- does not launch threats that you are unable to satisfy;
- hint at how bad your loved one's behavior is when drunk;
- always shows confidence in his ability to stop drinking;
- we make it clear to a loved one that illness is the cause of all that can and must be fought;
- does not address the problem of alcoholic drinking.
Describe how difficult it is to see a drunk person, how unpleasant it is to hear strangers about an alcoholic's antics. He must realize that close people suffer from his addiction.
Any problems resulting from drunkenness must be corrected by the alcoholic himself. Payment of debts made during a binge, reconciliation with relatives, showdown with the boss - all this is decided by the culprit himself.
Any good reason to stop coughing can be given. Family happiness is a strong argument for starting treatment.
Recently, many experts have come to the conclusion that alcoholism is a disease. How to justify this statement and persuade to start treatment:
- Diagnostics. Any disorder has symptoms, including alcoholism. It is expressed in an irresistible craving for alcohol, changes in behavior, denial of the desire for strong drinks.
- Chemical addiction. Due to him, a person begins to abuse alcohol. Everyone has problems in the family and at work, but only dependent people get drunk from it.
- Progression of the disease. The development of alcoholism follows a predictable scenario. Eventually, a person eventually degrades.
- Alcoholism is a chronic disease. Therefore, a person who has not consumed alcohol for years breaks from a glass of vodka.
- The consequence is death. If the treatment is not started in time, the patient will die before the prescribed time. The cause is usually concomitant diseases: cirrhosis, heart attack, cardiomyopathy and other disorders.
Treatment of alcoholism takes a long time. You must be patient and do not give up under any circumstances. Some are content with coding, which helps many addicts. The main thing is that a person understands a simple truth: he is absolutely forbidden to drink alcoholic beverages. It is an addiction that returns even after a few grams of alcohol. Therefore, for these people, sobriety should become the norm.
How to find the cause of alcoholism
The treatment of alcohol addiction will be meaningless in 2 cases: if a person is happy with everything and wants to keep drinking, or if he has a good reason to seek comfort in alcoholic beverages. If the provoking factor is eliminated, it will be much easier to cure an alcoholic. It is possible that he will stop drinking without coding.
Often the causes of chronic drunkenness are quite obvious, so they can be identified without too much difficulty. As a rule, the alcoholic himself calls them in the course of a confidential conversation. If you can't ask them yourself, you can do it with the help of a psychologist. The specialist will find out why a person is dissatisfied with her life and provide the necessary advice.
The most common causes of alcoholism:
- boring and uninteresting work or excess free time;
- constantly drinking with friends, relatives or colleagues, gradually developing into alcohol dependence;
- unstable personal life, family quarrels, recent breakup of relationships, betrayal or loss of a loved one;
- lack of work or housing, poverty, unstable life, sense of hopelessness;
- the presence of severe chronic or fatal diseases, the desire to relieve pain with alcohol;
- burdened heredity, the predisposition to alcoholism.
Methods to help restore an alcoholic to a normal life
If you have managed to persuade an alcoholic to seek treatment, you must immediately perform the following steps of the planned plan. As soon as the patient has accepted, it is necessary to go to an appointment with a narcologist so that the specialist prescribes the necessary therapy in this situation. To rule out breakdowns, remove any alcohol from the house and also rule out possible drunken encounters with former drinking buddies.
On paper, everything went smoothly, so don't think you'll be able to get your negligent alcoholic husband to accept treatment on the first try. This is a rather difficult task that requires a lot of patience and somewhere even a woman's cunning and ingenuity. But when the result is achieved, your life will radically change, which will be a worthy reward for your efforts.
There are numerous clinics that can forcibly admit a patient by court order. The therapy process itself is divided into several stages:
- Motivational conversation with a psychologist. In some cases, this measure helps the person become aware of the addiction and accept voluntary treatment.
- Forced admission to an inpatient ward.
- Detoxification procedure.
- Rehabilitation (includes drug coding, psychological support, hospitalization).
- Social adaptation. Assistance to a former alcoholic in finding a job, learning a new profession, psychological support.
- Working with relatives. This includes explanatory conversations, participation in self-help groups, personal consultations with a psychologist.
The best solution is to take the drunk to a specialized paid clinic where compulsory care services are provided. The disadvantage of this method is that keeping an alcoholic in a clinic for a long time requires large financial investments. So, a day in the hospital will be expensive. The price depends on the region and the class of the hospital.
Another way is to place the patient in a psychiatric dispensary. This measure is considered extreme. You can only go to a psychiatric clinic with a court decision or a psychiatric team (experts on the spot decide on the need for urgent hospitalization). In the latter case, the presence of a police team is mandatory: it will register the presence of a real threat to the health of the patient or those around them.
Some believe that it is possible to forcefully treat an alcoholic at home. Various herbal decoctions are considered particularly effective - they reduce the craving for alcohol.
Here is one of the recipes. Take the following ingredients in equal proportions (10 g each):
- Motherwort.
- Horsetail.
- Dried burdock and sorrel roots.
- Mint.
Put the herbs in an enameled bowl, pour a glass of boiling water, then heat for 15 minutes in a water bath. The resulting broth is filtered, drunk in small portions throughout the day. It is not recommended to prepare a drink for future use - it should always be freshly prepared. If you want to secretly cure a person from drunkenness, you can add small portions of the infusion to alcoholic beverages.
You can also buy a ready-made herbal blend. It is famous for these properties:
- discourages the desire to drink alcohol;
- increases the protective functions of the body;
- stimulates the immune system;
- helps eliminate toxins, cleanse the liver.
This drink is particularly convenient because it is produced and drunk like a normal herbal tea in unlimited quantities throughout the day.
If close people have managed to induce an alcoholic to undergo a course of drug treatment and psychotherapy, it is important to decide on further action. The main task at this time is to strengthen the motivation for a healthy lifestyle. Most addicted people don't see the point of being sober. Living right is scary because alcoholics don't know what to do next and how to enjoy life. To help such a person, close people should:
- being convinced that an alcoholic is a selfish with a weak will, a childish person. Fulfilling the drunkard's desires just to keep him from drinking again is the wrong way. It is necessary to allow the patient to make decisions for himself, so he will be able to enjoy that action;
- support the positive aspects of a sober life, persuade the patient to write them for the support of daily motivation;
- to save the patient from the usual social circle, for which it is better to move to a new place of residence;
- Keep the former alcoholic interested in a new hobby, don't give him free time to reflect on a boring existence. To do this, change your job, take it away with a hobby, sports.
Be consistent with your campaigns and views.
- Shows examples of prominent people in the alcoholic society who have given up on this addiction.
- Go together for a consultation with a psychotherapist and a narcologist.
- Change your personal position in family life from sacrificial or overly controlled to the opposite.
Remember that only a correctly constructed motivation of the addict for treatment and for a sober lifestyle will help persuade the patient to mandatory treatment.